she sent me a sweet little text message... 'i'm getting married!'
this is what she's been waiting for, and because i know her so well, i know that it was the happiest day of her life. she gets to officially spend the rest of her life with her best friend. if everyone could be so lucky.
in the end, this is what it's all about. the marriage. the love.
it's not necessarily about the wedding.
from mainstream society, you wouldn't be able to tell that it's about the love. i question the emphasis that we put on the dress, the ring, the everything. you may argue that everyone questions these things... but i'm not so sure. there are 18 tv shows listed on bridestelevision that have to do with brides, bridezillas and weddings, but that's not counting shows such as the Bachelor/ette or Kim's Fairytale Wedding. (it was a little painful to look up the name of that, btw.)
i don't know the ratings, but on my own personal Raj-o-Meter, i would say that they are quite high, simply by the reasoning of how many of my girlfriends love Say Yes to the Dress (myself included)...
why are we obsessed with the wedding? women are stuffed with this desire for a beautiful wedding from the days of disney princesses and polly pockets. normal girls want the poofy dress, the rock of ages, and, eventually, the prince charming. (who is very handsome with lots of money)
it's not necessarily about the checklist.
cue Charlotte York. those women who can't move on to the next step without being married first.
sure, you want to be married. you want to share your life with someone. fine. wait. but don't stop living. i cater to my man/boy/date/whatever as much as the next lady, much like that Destiny's Child song. (if you don't know it, shame.shame.shame.) but, i almost pity the Charlotte Yorks who don't see themselves as more than a bride or wife.
why are we obsessed with the checklist? again, women are stuffed with this right process of life. school. job. marriage. kids. repeat. doesn't exactly leave a lot of room for those of us spontaneous folks. there's nothing wrong with the checklist, as long as it's not a crutch.
it is about the love.
let's face it, we love love. we love the idea of love. the real thing. falling in love. maybe even falling out of love. we love feeling anything to do with love. it makes you live aloud. it makes you feel alive.
and it's available in our favorite songs, our favorite photos, our favorite videos. it's everywhere.
Casey + Brandon from Fancy Rhino on Vimeo.
i love love too.
i haven't planned my wedding. i haven't even planned my checklist.
but i plan for love.
